Things you should not do with a marriage proposal – continued

Years ago it was fashionable to hide the ring in food, but hiding the ring in food is not that popular anymore. It’s been in a thousand movies and television shows. You will definitely not score points for creativity. It depends on your bride to be and the kind of relationship that you two have, but it is advisable not to propose at a big sport game. It can be very loud and chaotic and that will take away from the romance. Try to make it a unique experience but stay away from something that will be to complicated. Sometimes the proposal can be so stressful and worry some that the groom-to- be is in such a panic state that he can not focus on the proposal itself and that will steel the joy out of the moment.

Caring for jewellery

It is so important to keep your jewellery looking as beautiful as the day you received it and all it takes is a little care and attention. Generally the gentlest way of cleaning is to use a mild soap(no detergent), warm water and a very soft brush and drying with a soft cloth or towel. It is a good idea to store your jewellery in separate compartments or boxes. Some delicate gems can be affected by sunlight. Hairspray and perfume has a detrimental affect on pearls so always remember to spray these before putting your pearls on. Chlorine and products with bleach can effect certain alloys, especially those associated with white gold It is important to take special care of gems, especially emeralds with natural inclusions on the surface as these can chip or discolour.

Birthstone for February – Amethyst

The birthstone for February is the Amethyst. Amethyst is the purple variety of the mineral quartz and is a popular gemstone available in different shapes and sizes, making it more affordable. Amethyst complements both warm and cool colours and therefore can be used with white, yellow and platinum jewellery. The name “Amethyst” comes from the from the Greeks and means “not drunken or sober”. The ancient Greeks and Romans believed Amethyst would ward of the intoxicating powers of alcohol and keep the wearer clear headed and quick-witted. Purple Amethyst speaks of peace, temperance, serenity and royalty.

Birthstone of January- Garnet

Garnet is the birthstone of January and is mined in a rainbow of colours ranging from the fiery orange of a mandarin to the rich green of a tsavorite garnet. a Garnet commonly occurs in red and when people hear garnet they immediately think of a red gemstone. The name garnet comes from the Medieval Latin word “granatus” meaning “seed like” in reference to a pomegranate. This reference is quite suitable as small garnets look like bright red seeds from a pomegranate.

The use of red garnets date back thousands of years when it was used by Egyptian pharaohs for both decorative and ceremonial purposes. The ancient Romans also wore garnet rings and traded garnet gemstones. As with many precious stones garnets were once believed to hold medicinal powers and in medieval times it protected the wearer against poisons, wounds and bad dreams. It was also believed to cure depression. Receiving a garnet is a great gift and symbolises a light heart, loyalty and enduring affections.

Birthstones

What better way to celebrate a birthday than with a birthstone, usually in the form of a jewellery piece. Why every month was assigned a specific stone is still unclear but it was believed that people started to wear a different gem stones each month as a sort of talisman, believing each stone held certain powers and gradually specific gemstones became attached to specific months. In 1912 a birthstone list was created for commercial use and it is now excepted all over the world. Some months have more than one stone and over the next weeks we will share with you some information on the birthstone assigned for every month of the year.

 

Things you should not do with a marriage proposal – continued

Years ago it was fashionable to hide the ring in food, but hiding the ring in food is not that popular anymore. It’s been in a thousand movies and television shows. You will definitely not score points for creativity. It depends on your bride to be and the kind of relationship that you two have, but it is advisable not to propose at a big sport game. It can be very loud and chaotic and that will take away from the romance. Try to make it a unique experience but stay away from something that will be to complicated. Sometimes the proposal can be so stressful and worry some that the groom-to- be is in such a panic state that he can not focus on the proposal itself and that will steel the joy out of the moment.

 

Things you should not do with a marriage proposal

 

Once you have worked up the courage to pop the question and you have done all the right things to make it a magical moment, there is still a few things you should “not do”to ensure that you have a magical moment outcome. It is best to keep the moment personal. Unless she told you that she would like to have a splashy all out there proposal its best to keep it intimate. Many brides-to-be would prefer to share this big event just between the two of you. After all you have the rest of your lives to tell the world about your marriage but you only have one engagement moment. It is also best not to do it in front of her family as this can just add more stress that you do not need. Your families will merge with your marriage by default and they don’t  need to be present when you pop the question. You can immediately let everyone know afterwards.

Things you should do with a marriage proposal-continued

You’ve done everything right so far and you are close to the perfect moment but there is still a few things to keep in mind. Although we are far removed in this century from paying a dowry or lobola as referred to in some African cultures. It is wise to still get her parents blessing, seeing that you are taking one of their priceless possessions as well as becoming part of the family. Pick a personal or favourite spot and make it meaningful. Use your creativity and make this experience a unique and memorable one rather than a cookie cutter proposal.

Things you should do with a marriage proposal – continued

So you have tested the waters and you have tried to keep the actual proposal time as a surprise. The next step is to actually practise what you are going to say. All eyes will be on you and you don’t want to be caught with your tongue in your cheek. It is important to find the right engagement ring and to have some sort of  idea what her finger size is. If the lady of your dreams is wearing a ring on her finger, you can always secretly fit it on your hand and see up to wear it goes. This will give the jeweller more or less an idea of what size to work with. If you have no idea of the finger size and none of the close family and girlfriends can help you out, it is advisable to go a bit bigger in size than smaller. You don’t want to ruin the moment with a ring that doesn’t make it past the first knuckle. In this case bigger would be better. If you are not sure what kind of engagement ring to buy you can purchase a diamond and have it set in a simple solitaire setting for the proposal and get her to design the ring of her dreams. Some blokes actually propose with a diamond to make sure she can pick what she wants but still have an element of surprise.

Things you should do with a marriage proposal

It is very important to make sure that you guys are on the same page and want the same thing. It is always a good idea to know how both of you feel about children, jobs, religion etc. These small little things can become big problems later in life. It is important not to catch her completely off guard as a surprise proposal without even discussing marriage at some point can and will almost definitely lead to a very hesitant “yes” or “I will think about it”. Even though you’ve discussed getting married, the marriage proposal itself can and should be special, and a surprise. Girls wants to be wowed.