You’ve done everything right so far and you are close to the perfect moment but there is still a few things to keep in mind. Although we are far removed in this century from paying a dowry or lobola as referred to in some African cultures. It is wise to still get her parents blessing, seeing that you are taking one of their priceless possessions as well as becoming part of the family. Pick a personal or favourite spot and make it meaningful. Use your creativity and make this experience a unique and memorable one rather than a cookie cutter proposal.
So you have tested the waters and you have tried to keep the actual proposal time as a surprise. The next step is to actually practise what you are going to say. All eyes will be on you and you don’t want to be caught with your tongue in your cheek. It is important to find the right engagement ring and to have some sort of idea what her finger size is. If the lady of your dreams is wearing a ring on her finger, you can always secretly fit it on your hand and see up to wear it goes. This will give the jeweller more or less an idea of what size to work with. If you have no idea of the finger size and none of the close family and girlfriends can help you out, it is advisable to go a bit bigger in size than smaller. You don’t want to ruin the moment with a ring that doesn’t make it past the first knuckle. In this case bigger would be better. If you are not sure what kind of engagement ring to buy you can purchase a diamond and have it set in a simple solitaire setting for the proposal and get her to design the ring of her dreams. Some blokes actually propose with a diamond to make sure she can pick what she wants but still have an element of surprise.
It is very important to make sure that you guys are on the same page and want the same thing. It is always a good idea to know how both of you feel about children, jobs, religion etc. These small little things can become big problems later in life. It is important not to catch her completely off guard as a surprise proposal without even discussing marriage at some point can and will almost definitely lead to a very hesitant “yes” or “I will think about it”. Even though you’ve discussed getting married, the marriage proposal itself can and should be special, and a surprise. Girls wants to be wowed.
Tanzanites are becoming more and more popular to use as a symbol of love in an engagement ring and it is believed to imbue the wearer with gifts of eternal truth, honesty and knowledge of higher spiritual love and light. Tanzanite has only been discovered around 1969 at the base of Kilimanjaro and this beautiful blue/purple stone has been added as one of the birthstones for the month of December. With a Mohs hardness rating of 6.5 to 7.0, tanzanites can be used for engagement and wedding rings, but it does require special care. Tanzanite is stable under normal wearing conditions, which means it’s resistant to the effects of heat, light, and common chemicals but should not be subjected to very high temperatures or sudden temperature changes. It can be damaged by exposure to hydrochloric and hydrofluoric acids. It is recommended to clean your tanzanite ring with warm soapy water and avoid frequent cleans with ultrasonic or steam. If you choose to wear a tanzanite as an engagement ring you should take precautions against rough wearing or hard blows and be aware that a tanzanite will scratch over time.